My Vulva is on Netflix
Last spring, those of us in who are members of Betty Dodson’s “army of orgasmic women” knew that Betty and Carlin were working on a big secret vulva project. In early July, Carlin contacted me to ask if I’d be willing to share a picture of my vulva for the project:...
It’s Not About Feeling Better, It’s About Feeling More
She’s a woman in her 50’s,lying naked on my bed masturbating.Never having orgasmed before she’s come asking for help.Sitting beside her I watch her body move as she touches herself,clearly enjoying the pleasure.The skin on her chest starts to flushtelling me she’s...
Sex During Your Period is Just One of the Reasons
Yes, that's my menstrual blood and I'm bleeding right now. I am in my power. This post has been rolling around in my mind - I've been thinking about how much I love being a woman and how my menstrual cycle connects me to the tides, the lunar cycle and to all living...
Partner-Assisted Orgasms
As Betty said, "it's about my finger on my clit". Partners only enhance your orgasm because no one knows your sex organ better than you. But we do love their fingers and there's nothing like staying at the opening 😉 Did I mention that Betty shared her new fantasy...
Penetrating Your Vagina for the First Time
You will need a few basic items. If at all possible set aside at least an hour in a warm room that's completely private. Turn off the phone and put your cell phone in another room. Wash you hands and make sure you have smooth clean fingernails. 1. For your genital...
Our Sexuality is a Crucial Element in Our Personal Balance
Last week, I facilitated a private Bodysex session and when we finished, as usual as always, I had this feeling that these sessions give me a unique chance to closely observing the orgasm. And particularly, observing the lack of orgasm. I recalled what old...
Post-Abuse My Vagina is Chronically Tight & Dry
Dear Betty, As a child and early teen I experienced sexual force by an adult repeatedly. I would squeeze my vagina very tight to prevent penetration. It only angered the adult and ultimately did not prevent him. As a result when I finally had sex with my someone in my...
First Time Orgasm
Most young girls will begin by using their hands and massage oil. A young woman who has a history of little or no masturbation and has reached her mid to late-20s and is looking for her first orgasm, a battery driven vibrator can be a good choice. There are many of...
Bodysex is Individual Sex with One
From the moment I start thinking about the date for the Bodysex, it starts the ritual. The sensation is to keep alive the ceremony more than replicating a workshop. It’s something that connects me to the journey of wisdom that Betty Dodson launched in the 60s, and I...
The Basic Structures of Your Vulva
Betty has championed the distinction of "vulva" vs "vagina" for decades and there's a very important reason. Your vulva is your clitoral glans, inner and outer labia and your vaginal opening. Your clitoris exists solely for pleasure. Women can enjoy multiple...
My Go To “Trick” for Orgasm
One of the first emails is from a gal writing for a woman’s magazine: They are doing a piece on how women can have the best orgasms/sex life possible from “experts.” I get right to it. The last question is: “What is your own go-to trick when it comes to reaching an...
Examples of Unbroken Hymens
I never had a hymen...Betty never had a hymen. When I shared with my mother that hymens thin out and break apart with the release of estrogen during puberty, she was relieved. She was a virgin when she got married and always wondered why she didn't bleed after her...
The Variation of Clitoral Hoods
This graphic charting the variation of clitoral hoods was posted on a tumblr blog - it was created by a 22 year-old guy who's currently restoring his foreskin and opposed to infant circumcision. He wondered whether clitoral hoods followed the same range in "coverage"...
The Range of Vulva Styles
Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the Heart. The women connected...
The Best Use of Your Vibrator
Teaching is about repetition so here I go again saying the same thing once more with different words. There seems to be no “common sense” when it comes to women’s orgasms because most of us demand instant success the American way…add hot water and stir. Or we are...