The Moment I Discovered My Real Orgasm Sound
What does a real orgasm sound like? My personal story about discovering the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and what porn has taught us to expect. The Moment I Discovered My Real Orgasm Sound His head was between my legs. “That’s it. That’s the sound I’ve...
Pleasure is No Longer a Secret
I am my own religion. That didn’t come from faith; it came from exhaustion — from learning that no god was coming to protect me. I grew up in a country that confuses discipline with dignity, silence with virtue. I learned too soon what violence can do to a child’s...
Preferences
We wrote about our preferences. Browse the links below to read the full post.How My Sexual Preferences Changed in my 20's 30's, and 40's "The point isn’t to collect perfect techniques. It’s to stay curious . . .by Tosh PattersonFurious to Curious "Anger, frustration,...
My Preferences
Choosing the Discernment of Verisimilitude Over Nescience By Way of Preferences They weren’t a bad lay, but we were quite mismatched in terms of a lasting relationship. We were fucking one night a month or so into discovering this about each other and then, rather...
Bodysex is My Preference
When you devote your career to sexuality, most people want to know: what was your top sexual experience? And they think that you’re going to describe an orgy or threesome or international sex party. I’m not saying that I haven’t enjoyed those experiences; I think...
I Finally Gave Myself Permission
For many years, I didn’t even consider that I had preferences for anything. “Where do you want to go for lunch?” “Anywhere is fine with me” was always my pat response. I found a way to like – or maybe a better word is accept – most anything. I accommodated the...
My Preference is to say “No”
I have long struggled with how to say no. My sexual preferences in my 20s were loosely defined and dependent on the partners I had during that phase of my life. I would try anything once, and there was no absolute limit on what I would do if I liked a person enough....
How My Sexual Preferences Changed in My 20s, 30s and 40s
Do sexual preferences change with age? Absolutely, and mine are proof. This is how my sexual desires evolved decade by decade. Discovering My Sexual Preferences Sexual preferences aren’t fixed. I notice how mine shifted with time, partners, body changes, and life...
Furious to Curious
It starts in my face, tension, clench and contraction. Unrelenting, trapped in my eyebrows and my pursed lips. I take a deep breath and try to soften even a little. Maybe it’s left over frustration from something earlier in the day. I go back to massaging my vulva,...
Orgasms Aren’t One Way
Once safely out of the driveway, I unbuttoned my pants, grabbed the vibe from the passenger seat where I’d tossed it as I’d gotten into the car, and clicked it on. It felt good over my jeans. Driving masturbation is a delicate balance between your inner eyes settling...
The Work of Arousal: Learning to Stay with Myself
“Arousal” I hear the word and instantly I have parts of me blaring inside. These parts bounce around my mind, confused, looking for clues in the crevices of my brain, ruffling through old memories of things that were logged as turn ons at some point. It’s almost like...
Arousal
We share our experiences with arousal. Browse the links below to read the full post.My Arousal " For me, arousal can be an end in itself. I can just enjoy it without having to do anything about it.".by Laura BogushExcitation "For me, touch can be a way to tap into my...
My Arousal
I love feeling sexually aroused. My vulva feels warm and tingly. My breath and heartbeat quicken. My senses are alert.The sun shines brighter.Every aroma smells robust,My skin welcomes every touch.Foods taste delicious. I feel alive. Arousal isn’t a necessarily a...
Bodysex Is A Healing Force
As I packed my bags for our upcoming workshop, there was a certain heaviness that I couldn’t shake. Usually, I feel excited to meet the women and get a change in scenery. However, our new normal is crisis and chaos - unknown actors and undefinable risk. How would it...
Arousal: What It Is and It Is Not
Ugh, arousal even trying to think about my arousal, makes me groan and roll my eyes. Who talks about such things. What the hell is arousal anyways? Arousal, desire, sex drive, libido all seem like a complex mumbo gumbo word problem. Breathe, well in true nerd...