Envy Is Yang Stagnation

Envy Is Yang Stagnation

I will be taking a slightly different viewpoint on the topic of envy, which is to say, a taoistic one. Taped to my fridge is a chart of yin and yang characteristics. It lists their various balances and imbalances and is a diagnostic tool for understanding how to...
Spring Bodysex Retreat

Spring Bodysex Retreat

Leading my spring Bodysex retreat was easeful and sweet. Not on purpose, I’ve ended up with a hot pink, gray, and yellow color theme which makes the space feel rather dreamy. Here are some of my takeaways from the weekend.  Participating in a Bodysex Retreat is an...
Parenthood

Parenthood

Part One: Becoming Parents “Do you get to choose how many kids you have?” my 7 year old niece asked me last week.  “Sometimes,” I replied. She cocked her head at me.  “I wanted 2 daughters, I had one, and I ended up with none,” I said. Her mouth fell open.  ...
As Long as We’re Still Breathing We Have The Power To Change

As Long as We’re Still Breathing We Have The Power To Change

When I was 17, my mom’s boyfriend’s 15 year old son climbed on top of me one night and started kissing me. His actions would launch a short affair that was, for the most part, my sex education – the ground for which I learned things about sex I hadn’t known...
Multiple Orgasms are a Mindset as Much as Anything Else

Multiple Orgasms are a Mindset as Much as Anything Else

Because it’s not a matter of “if,” but “right stimulation for the right amount of time,” multiple orgasms are a mindset as much as anything else. I’m not necessarily waiting to have sex until I feel “turned on.” I might be turned on before I start or I might cultivate...