Mapping the Nerves of the Internal Clitoris
Recently, Dr. Ju Young Lee built upon the research of Dr. Helen O'Connell and created a complete 3D mapping of the nerves of the clitoris. What they found was extraordinary. There are several complex tree-like branching nerves that innervate the mons pubis, clitoral...
Reconnecting to Your Body
Reconnecting to the Body and Orgasm The connection we have with our body is the foundation of our mental health. Browse the links below to read the full post.Reconnection with My Body and Orgasm "The key practice that enabled me to re-connect with my body and orgasm...
Pay Attention and Trust My Body
During Covid, Carlin brought together a group of Bodysex women for a weekly Erotic Recess on Zoom. Joining sex-positive women from around the world to experience pleasure together was a lifeline during that time of uncertainty. I could always count on the women in...
Connecting and Reconnecting To Self
It was a wild spring and summer I tell you. And I am quite a different person now. I completed two long-term life goals, one took ten years, the other seven. I finished and then presented my thesis to a generous panel of shamanic teachers and community members. I...
My Body, My Orgasms, and Keeping My Light Alive
I get crabby sometimes. Really crabby. There, I said it! I can feel myself becoming impatient, irritated, and just not quite myself. My light starts to dim, and I don't like that feeling. Over time, I've discovered something about myself that I wish more women felt...
“Whatever You Are Doing, Keep Doing It”
I was disconnected from my body and orgasm for many years in my adult life. I knew what an orgasm felt like but had forgotten its significance. As a single mother with sole custody and no financial support, life became about surviving and certainly nothing about...
A Different Kind of Intimacy
If someone had asked me about my masturbation practice years ago, I would have had a very different answer. Today, the first thing that comes to mind is stillness. I live with post-traumatic stress disorder, and over the past few years my libido has almost...
Reconnecting with My Body and Orgasm
When did I feel disconnected from my body and/or orgasm? Most of my life. I was kidnapped by a man the summer before my 21st birthday. I had performed that evening at a dinner theater and the deranged middle aged rapist actually believed that I was in real life the...
Masturbation Practice
Masturbation Practice We share our routines for self-pleasure. Browse the links below to read the full post.Practice for Exploration and Discovery "When and if masturbation starts to feel like a chore, and it does sometimes, I do something to shake it up like switch...
I’m Not Motivated by Feelings of Sexual Desire
I rarely feel aroused these days. The barrage of sexual violence – the continual gaslighting – the deliberate denial of women’s healthcare. It’s exhausting. Every time Congress votes on the SAVE Act my vagina goes dry and my clit shrivels. Despite all of this, I...
Masturbation: A Good Habit
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been touching my vulva and feeling pleasure. My true masturbation practice began when I was around thirteen. Although I don’t specifically remember my first orgasm, I’m sure that’s when I started to masturbate regularly, usually...
The Gift of “Me Time”
Bodysex reminded me of how significant masturbation is and what it means to stay intimate with my own body. As a married and sexually active woman, I still enjoy that self love and attention. Over the past decade or so, we’ve witnessed an increase in societal...
Practice for Exploration and Discovery
I was careening down the highway in my Sprinter van, headed to a shamanic retreat, my vibrator on a low setting, pressing through my jeans. It’s not what I usually think of as practice, but given that I orgasmed and then went at it again fifteen or so minutes later, I...
It’s Not Really About Finding the Time
When I say I don’t have time to masturbate, what I usually mean is that I didn’t prioritize it. Whether I prioritize it depends entirely on what I believe those fifteen minutes are worth. My everyday life looks like a lot of women’s. I’m a mother, I’m home with my...
Envy and Competition
Envy and Competition We wrote about our experience with competition and envy. Browse the links below to read the full post.How I Learned That Women Compete For Men "In a culture that prizes youth and beauty, she thought her value was diminishing as I was growing into...
Envy Undermined My Relationships
“Everything for you is effortless”, he snarled as I feverishly typed the last paragraph of my history paper due the next morning. Effortless? Did he not see the sweat on my upper lip or that I was wearing my waitress uniform trying to finish before a dinner shift?...