Returning to the Bodysex Circle
Recently, I’ve been taking a break from hormonal birth control. Soon after I finish nursing school, I will be starting a family. Ideally, I’ve struggled with fertility in the past. I think it was related to birth control. According to the latest research, it can take...
A Date with Myself
I could hardly wait for my date with myself, a part of my Bodysex Lite homework assignment with Laura Bogush. The assignment was simple yet profound: plan a date with just me and use all my senses to savor the experience. With my husband out of town and a day off...
Resistance
We wrote about resistance to connecting with our bodies for pleasure. Browse the links below to read the full post.Resistance to Pleasure: Choosing Joy When Life Breaks Down "I dropped into my body and my nervous system softened. Two hours later, I calmly looked at...
What I Learned About My Resistance
I feel a small tingle in my clitoris and an ember of desire in my body as I drink my coffee this morning. An orgasm would feel lovely right now, a great way to start my day. Instead, I resist. My mind tells me to stick to the task at hand. I’m working on Bodysex.com,...
Resistance is Cyclical
Recently, I’ve been taking a break from hormonal birth control. Soon after I finish nursing school, I will be starting a family. Ideally, I’ve struggled with fertility in the past. I think it was related to birth control. According to the latest research, it can take...
Resistance to Pleasure: Choosing Joy When Life Breaks
What does it mean to be pleasure-centered when everything is falling apart? Three moments from my life where I experienced resistance and learning to trust that I deserve to feel good. Touch, Arousal, Then Desire Pleasure is how I hack my nervous system when it gets...
Choosing to Align
Last summer I started using my masturbation practice to process some things only to remember a past me also did this, though not in front of a full length mirror with a pile of toys, oils, and lube next to me. It was in ancient times before the pandemic so I’d...
Orgasm
We wrote about our experience with orgasm. Browse the links below to read the full post.Pleasure is No Longer a Secret " It took me years to unlearn obedience — to stop making love like an apology, to stop asking permission to feel."by Raffaella di GirolamoOrgasms...
I Let the Orgasm Come to Me
I’ve always been orgasmic. My parents didn’t get the memo that I should be discouraged from touching my vulva as a child. I remember exploring my genitals as a preschooler. It felt good. When hormones brought me orgasms at puberty, I masturbated multiple times a day....
I Can Trust in Bodysex
“Bodysex is a labor of love”, I remind myself while packing my suitcase - my phone set to a live FAA airport tracker. There’s nothing like having 12 women, including myself, flying in from all over the world during a government shutdown. I felt my jaw tightening and...
My Experience with Orgasm
I’ve been orgasmic since a young age. Before I knew what was happening in my body. Luckily, I had parents who were sex positive and never shamed me for touching myself. Young kids are caught touching themselves, and for young girls, this often is their first...
The Moment I Discovered My Real Orgasm Sound
What does a real orgasm sound like? My personal story about discovering the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and what porn has taught us to expect. The Moment I Discovered My Real Orgasm Sound His head was between my legs. “That’s it. That’s the sound I’ve...
Pleasure is No Longer a Secret
I am my own religion. That didn’t come from faith; it came from exhaustion — from learning that no god was coming to protect me. I grew up in a country that confuses discipline with dignity, silence with virtue. I learned too soon what violence can do to a child’s...
Preferences
We wrote about our preferences. Browse the links below to read the full post.How My Sexual Preferences Changed in my 20's 30's, and 40's "The point isn’t to collect perfect techniques. It’s to stay curious . . .by Tosh PattersonFurious to Curious "Anger, frustration,...
My Preferences
Choosing the Discernment of Verisimilitude Over Nescience By Way of Preferences They weren’t a bad lay, but we were quite mismatched in terms of a lasting relationship. We were fucking one night a month or so into discovering this about each other and then, rather...