Motherhood: I’d Do It All Again, I’d Just Do It Differently
I had two boys, one vaginally and one by C-section. I wouldn’t trade either experience for anything. I will never forget the overwhelming love I felt holding each of them for the first time, lying in that hospital bed, just the two of us, looking into each other’s...
Becoming a Woman Meant My Body was Not My Own – That my Body could make Good Men do Bad Things
I was raised in a Christian Fundamentalist family. We didn’t go to school. We didn’t own a television. Growing up every piece of clothing I ever wore came out of a goodwill bag except for my Easter dress. Easter was the most holy holiday when Jesus resurrected from...
My First Sexual Experience Was Assault
I resisted writing about the topic of nonconsensual touch. I’ve learned that whenever I experience resistance, it’s something that I need to explore. So here I am, about to share a memory that I haven’t talked about much. I grew up in the Ohio countryside, surrounded...
Mapping the Nerves of the Internal Clitoris
Recently, Dr. Ju Young Lee built upon the research of Dr. Helen O'Connell and created a complete 3D mapping of the nerves of the clitoris. What they found was extraordinary. There are several complex tree-like branching nerves that innervate the mons pubis, clitoral...
Non Consensual Touch
Non Consensual Touch We share our experiences with being touched without permission. Browse the links below to read the full post.When Harm Isn't Touch, It's Words "Now I watch my 14-year-old granddaughter, happy, confident, and she’s being teased. And I feel it all...
My Body is Mine
Non-consensual touch started young for me. I had to kiss or hug my uncles and aunties when I saw them… and, because ‘she meant well’ and ‘it’s how she is’, it was okay for my Italian neighbour to pinch my cheeks – hard! Fortunately for me, while those things were...
My Body Knew The Whole Time
I knew when I was three. My mom always told me that if anyone ever asked to see or touch my body to tell her immediately. Always come and tell. When I was three years old we lived with my parents friend who had teenage boys. They were babysitting me, and they brought...
Saying No Counts
Why do some women struggle to say no to unwanted touch? My reflections on a lifetime of boundary violations – from forced childhood hugs to ignored sexual boundaries – and how early experiences teach us our bodies aren’t our own. If you’ve ever felt unable to protect...
You Are Not Defined By What Happened To You
I went to college a virgin. I’ve written about this in previous blogs. I was ashamed and felt inadequate. I even wrote to Betty Dodson back when that was a feature on her website, and she gave me the advice you’d expect. Be sexual with yourself first; partner sex can...
As Long as We’re Still Breathing We Have The Power To Change
When I was 17, my mom’s boyfriend’s 15 year old son climbed on top of me one night and started kissing me. His actions would launch a short affair that was, for the most part, my sex education - the ground for which I learned things about sex I hadn’t known before. We...
When the Harm Isn’t Touch, It’s Words
I don’t have any recollection of a time when I was touched without consent. I’ve thought about it. I’ve really looked. Nothing. I know that’s not the story many women carry, and I don’t take that lightly. But when I dug deeper, what kept coming up for me wasn’t touch....
Multiple Orgasms
Multiple Orgasms We wrote about our experence with having more than one orgasm. Browse the links below to read the full post.From Praying for One to Having Multiple: My Orgasm Story "Multiple orgasms are just the natural result of understanding how your body actually...
An Afternoon Date with Myself
I tend to be “one and done” when I orgasm by myself. My first orgasm often feels good enough to “scratch my itch,” release some happy hormones, and relax my body. I usually feel satisfied, so I rarely go for another when I’m alone. Masturbation is usually just part of...
From Praying for One to Having Multiple: My Orgasm Story
Can women really have multiple orgasms? I thought it was a myth until BodySex taught me otherwise. This is my transformation from desperately hoping for one orgasm to being multiorgasmic by choice. I used to wish, hope, and pray for an orgasm. I never knew when it was...
Giving Myself Enough Time Helps Me Achieve Multiple Orgasms
When I first heard the term ‘multiple orgasms’, I wondered what that meant. I can’t remember how old I was – probably my late teens. I don’t think I was even consciously aware of what an orgasm was at the time – let alone multiple orgasms. I knew I experienced...