My Body Knew The Whole Time
I knew when I was three. My mom always told me that if anyone ever asked to see or touch my body to tell her immediately. Always come and tell. When I was three years old we lived with my parents friend who had teenage boys. They were babysitting me, and they brought...
Saying No Counts
Why do some women struggle to say no to unwanted touch? My reflections on a lifetime of boundary violations – from forced childhood hugs to ignored sexual boundaries – and how early experiences teach us our bodies aren’t our own. If you’ve ever felt unable to protect...
You Are Not Defined By What Happened To You
I went to college a virgin. I’ve written about this in previous blogs. I was ashamed and felt inadequate. I even wrote to Betty Dodson back when that was a feature on her website, and she gave me the advice you’d expect. Be sexual with yourself first; partner sex can...
As Long as We’re Still Breathing We Have The Power To Change
When I was 17, my mom’s boyfriend’s 15 year old son climbed on top of me one night and started kissing me. His actions would launch a short affair that was, for the most part, my sex education - the ground for which I learned things about sex I hadn’t known before. We...
When the Harm Isn’t Touch, It’s Words
I don’t have any recollection of a time when I was touched without consent. I’ve thought about it. I’ve really looked. Nothing. I know that’s not the story many women carry, and I don’t take that lightly. But when I dug deeper, what kept coming up for me wasn’t touch....
Multiple Orgasms
Multiple Orgasms We wrote about our experence with having more than one orgasm. Browse the links below to read the full post.From Praying for One to Having Multiple: My Orgasm Story "Multiple orgasms are just the natural result of understanding how your body actually...
An Afternoon Date with Myself
I tend to be “one and done” when I orgasm by myself. My first orgasm often feels good enough to “scratch my itch,” release some happy hormones, and relax my body. I usually feel satisfied, so I rarely go for another when I’m alone. Masturbation is usually just part of...
From Praying for One to Having Multiple: My Orgasm Story
Can women really have multiple orgasms? I thought it was a myth until BodySex taught me otherwise. This is my transformation from desperately hoping for one orgasm to being multiorgasmic by choice. I used to wish, hope, and pray for an orgasm. I never knew when it was...
Giving Myself Enough Time Helps Me Achieve Multiple Orgasms
When I first heard the term ‘multiple orgasms’, I wondered what that meant. I can’t remember how old I was – probably my late teens. I don’t think I was even consciously aware of what an orgasm was at the time – let alone multiple orgasms. I knew I experienced...
My Best Orgasms Are with Myself
I have been self sexual since early adolescence. There’s research to suggest that it takes less time for me to achieve orgasm as a result of this long-standing relationship I’ve had with myself. Even as a person who has been sexually active with myself for as long as...
Yes, I Plan My Multiple Orgasms
Important disclaimer: This is what I know to be true about my body and my techniques right now, it is not what has always been true and might not be what is always true going forward. Should my body shift and change as bodies do for all the reasons, hormones, age,...
Multiple Orgasms are a Mindset as Much as Anything Else
Because it’s not a matter of “if,” but “right stimulation for the right amount of time,” multiple orgasms are a mindset as much as anything else. I’m not necessarily waiting to have sex until I feel “turned on.” I might be turned on before I start or I might cultivate...
Orgasm as a Survival Skill
Orgasm as a Survival Skill We wrote about how we use orgasm to process our grief and create hope. Browse the links below to read the full post.How to Use Your Body to Survive 2026 "When I maintain my connection to pleasure and joy, I maintain my connection to hope....
I Can Survive Anything with Orgasm
Since the very start of 2026, I’ve felt emotionally raw, ready to cry at any moment. There’s a tightness in my chest, a lump in my throat, and tears just behind my eyes when I think about the state of the world. The sad, inevitable end of an important relationship is...
How to Use Your Body to Survive 2026
2026 started with a bang: Venezuela. Minnesota protests. Greenland. Journalists arrested. This political firestorm is pulling at my soul, demanding my attention, threatening to drag me into the spiral of doom-scrolling and helpless rage. What world am I living in, and...