Articles
Read articles and blog posts written by Betty Dodson, Carlin Ross, Bodysex Facilitators, and guest writers
My Last Day with Betty
Betty and I spent every Friday together for a decade. When I had Grayson, everything shifted. I missed brainstorming with her about our weekly video topic and heading off to sushi to read the comments and celebrate our YouTube views. I knew I needed to get back to...
My Tribute to Betty Dodson®
Betty Dodson® wasn’t my friend. But I was her student even before I knew she was my teacher. When I was a teenager, I looked at my vulva with a mirror after my mother’s persistent encouragement. It was the mid 1970’s and my mother probably had read an article written...
My Interview in Glamour
When I sat down with the writer, Jenny, I knew this would be a quality piece. I love this younger generation of women. They're smart, capable and out there making their mark. Here's the entire article How Carlin Ross, the Woman Who Orgasmed on the Goop Lab Netflix...
Betty’s Latest Feature in the NY Times
It seems like a million years ago - driving into Betty's with Grayson to sit down with the NY Times. This is our first post-COVID-19 piece and I couldn't be prouder of Betty. Somehow no matter what's going on around her, Betty is right on point. Here is my favorite...
The Pleasure is Ours
I can't describe how it feels to watch yourself display your vulva and orgasm on a theatre screen the night before its released on an international media platform like Netflix. It was surreal and amazing. I've never been more proud of Betty and me, our work, our...
My Vulva is on Netflix
Last spring, those of us in who are members of Betty Dodson’s “army of orgasmic women” knew that Betty and Carlin were working on a big secret vulva project. In early July, Carlin contacted me to ask if I’d be willing to share a picture of my vulva for the project:...
It’s Not About Feeling Better, It’s About Feeling More
She’s a woman in her 50’s,lying naked on my bed masturbating.Never having orgasmed before she’s come asking for help.Sitting beside her I watch her body move as she touches herself,clearly enjoying the pleasure.The skin on her chest starts to flushtelling me she’s...
Sex During Your Period is Just One of the Reasons
Yes, that's my menstrual blood and I'm bleeding right now. I am in my power. This post has been rolling around in my mind - I've been thinking about how much I love being a woman and how my menstrual cycle connects me to the tides, the lunar cycle and to all living...
Penetrating Your Vagina for the First Time
You will need a few basic items. If at all possible set aside at least an hour in a warm room that's completely private. Turn off the phone and put your cell phone in another room. Wash you hands and make sure you have smooth clean fingernails. 1. For your genital...
Our Sexuality is a Crucial Element in Our Personal Balance
Last week, I facilitated a private Bodysex session and when we finished, as usual as always, I had this feeling that these sessions give me a unique chance to closely observing the orgasm. And particularly, observing the lack of orgasm. I recalled what old...
Post-Abuse My Vagina is Chronically Tight & Dry
Dear Betty, As a child and early teen I experienced sexual force by an adult repeatedly. I would squeeze my vagina very tight to prevent penetration. It only angered the adult and ultimately did not prevent him. As a result when I finally had sex with my someone in my...
First Time Orgasm
Most young girls will begin by using their hands and massage oil. A young woman who has a history of little or no masturbation and has reached her mid to late-20s and is looking for her first orgasm, a battery driven vibrator can be a good choice. There are many of...
Bodysex is Individual Sex with One
From the moment I start thinking about the date for the Bodysex, it starts the ritual. The sensation is to keep alive the ceremony more than replicating a workshop. It’s something that connects me to the journey of wisdom that Betty Dodson launched in the 60s, and I...
The Basic Structures of Your Vulva
Betty has championed the distinction of "vulva" vs "vagina" for decades and there's a very important reason. Your vulva is your clitoral glans, inner and outer labia and your vaginal opening. Your clitoris exists solely for pleasure. Women can enjoy multiple...
My Go To “Trick” for Orgasm
One of the first emails is from a gal writing for a woman’s magazine: They are doing a piece on how women can have the best orgasms/sex life possible from “experts.” I get right to it. The last question is: “What is your own go-to trick when it comes to reaching an...
Examples of Unbroken Hymens
I never had a hymen...Betty never had a hymen. When I shared with my mother that hymens thin out and break apart with the release of estrogen during puberty, she was relieved. She was a virgin when she got married and always wondered why she didn't bleed after her...
The Variation of Clitoral Hoods
This graphic charting the variation of clitoral hoods was posted on a tumblr blog - it was created by a 22 year-old guy who's currently restoring his foreskin and opposed to infant circumcision. He wondered whether clitoral hoods followed the same range in "coverage"...
The Range of Vulva Styles
Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the Heart. The women connected...
The Best Use of Your Vibrator
Teaching is about repetition so here I go again saying the same thing once more with different words. There seems to be no “common sense” when it comes to women’s orgasms because most of us demand instant success the American way…add hot water and stir. Or we are...
Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique
Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex. Many have carried the same pattern of childhood masturbation over into adulthood and it's now the only way...
How to Use the Barbell
Betty Dodson PhD has proven though working with thousands of women that a strong pelvic floor muscle enhances orgasm with oneself and during partner sex. The same muscle also insures bladder control, maintains vaginal health, and contributes to a person's overall...
From Trauma to Orgasms
Every Woman on the Planet Has Been Sexually Traumatized. At best, we've been objectified, demeaned, shamed, guilted, and manipulated into believing that we don't deserve pleasure on our own terms. At worst, we've been groped, assaulted, raped and blamed for male lust....
How Can I Relax & Embrace Pleasure During Pregnancy?
Dear Betty, First of all, thank you for doing this noble work of yours. I have been in a loving, monogamous relationship with my man for about five years. Before him, I had six partners and not really fulfilling romantic or sexual life. My first partner was...
Am I Asexual?
Hi Dr. Betty, I don't know whether I'm asexual or what's up with me. I'm a 24 year old girl. I can watch porn, get turned on and rub my clit until I orgasm, but whenever I've tried sexual things with someone else I just don't get turned on, if anything their bodily...