Articles
Read articles and blog posts written by Betty Dodson, Carlin Ross, Bodysex Facilitators, and guest writers
Our Sexuality is a Crucial Element in Our Personal Balance
Last week, I facilitated a private Bodysex session and when we finished, as usual as always, I had this feeling that these sessions give me a unique chance to closely observing the orgasm. And particularly, observing the lack of orgasm. I recalled what old...
Post-Abuse My Vagina is Chronically Tight & Dry
Dear Betty, As a child and early teen I experienced sexual force by an adult repeatedly. I would squeeze my vagina very tight to prevent penetration. It only angered the adult and ultimately did not prevent him. As a result when I finally had sex with my someone in my...
First Time Orgasm
Most young girls will begin by using their hands and massage oil. A young woman who has a history of little or no masturbation and has reached her mid to late-20s and is looking for her first orgasm, a battery driven vibrator can be a good choice. There are many of...
Bodysex is Individual Sex with One
From the moment I start thinking about the date for the Bodysex, it starts the ritual. The sensation is to keep alive the ceremony more than replicating a workshop. It’s something that connects me to the journey of wisdom that Betty Dodson launched in the 60s, and I...
The Basic Structures of Your Vulva
Betty has championed the distinction of "vulva" vs "vagina" for decades and there's a very important reason. Your vulva is your clitoral glans, inner and outer labia and your vaginal opening. Your clitoris exists solely for pleasure. Women can enjoy multiple...
My Go To “Trick” for Orgasm
One of the first emails is from a gal writing for a woman’s magazine: They are doing a piece on how women can have the best orgasms/sex life possible from “experts.” I get right to it. The last question is: “What is your own go-to trick when it comes to reaching an...
Examples of Unbroken Hymens
I never had a hymen...Betty never had a hymen. When I shared with my mother that hymens thin out and break apart with the release of estrogen during puberty, she was relieved. She was a virgin when she got married and always wondered why she didn't bleed after her...
The Variation of Clitoral Hoods
This graphic charting the variation of clitoral hoods was posted on a tumblr blog - it was created by a 22 year-old guy who's currently restoring his foreskin and opposed to infant circumcision. He wondered whether clitoral hoods followed the same range in "coverage"...
The Range of Vulva Styles
Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the Heart. The women connected...
The Best Use of Your Vibrator
Teaching is about repetition so here I go again saying the same thing once more with different words. There seems to be no “common sense” when it comes to women’s orgasms because most of us demand instant success the American way…add hot water and stir. Or we are...
Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique
Over the years, one frequently asked question comes from women and a few men who are unable to incorporate their current method of masturbation into partnersex. Many have carried the same pattern of childhood masturbation over into adulthood and it's now the only way...
How to Use the Barbell
Betty Dodson PhD has proven though working with thousands of women that a strong pelvic floor muscle enhances orgasm with oneself and during partner sex. The same muscle also insures bladder control, maintains vaginal health, and contributes to a person's overall...
From Trauma to Orgasms
Every Woman on the Planet Has Been Sexually Traumatized. At best, we've been objectified, demeaned, shamed, guilted, and manipulated into believing that we don't deserve pleasure on our own terms. At worst, we've been groped, assaulted, raped and blamed for male lust....
How Can I Relax & Embrace Pleasure During Pregnancy?
Dear Betty, First of all, thank you for doing this noble work of yours. I have been in a loving, monogamous relationship with my man for about five years. Before him, I had six partners and not really fulfilling romantic or sexual life. My first partner was...
Am I Asexual?
Hi Dr. Betty, I don't know whether I'm asexual or what's up with me. I'm a 24 year old girl. I can watch porn, get turned on and rub my clit until I orgasm, but whenever I've tried sexual things with someone else I just don't get turned on, if anything their bodily...
Sexual Fantasy is as Important as Genital Stimulation
While I understand vibrators are here to stay along with other sex toys and porn, the younger generation seems to be overly reliant on technology. They forget our most potent sexual motivation is the human brain. Before being hooked on my vibrator, I'd made it to the...
How Attachment Parenting My Children Taught Me Self-Love
When I was 19 I travelled to East Africa hoping to live with and learn from other cultures. Arriving in Kenya I was told about a semi-nomadic tribe called the Maasai, who lived in Southern Kenya and part of Tanzania. Traditional way of life for the Maasai revolved...
A Woman’s Erection Needs 20-30 Minutes of Adequate Stimulation
I fully understand that teaching is repetition. So again I repeat: the clitoral body is the primary source of orgasm whether it's stimulated externally, internally, or both at the same time. I prefer both. Once a woman understands she can have both clitoral...
Will Using Organic Oil for Lubrication Give Me UTIs?
Dear Dr. Betty, I'm 59, and I have just started to learn how to have enjoyable sex. I've been plagued all my life with UTIs. I've been warned to use only water based lubrications or I'll get UTI's, and/or urethritis. When researching G spot orgasms, I read that almond...
STI Makes Me Feel Like Damaged Goods
Hi Betty! I was recently diagnosed with HPV. The doctor gave me a thorough explanation about the virus. He helped me understand that HPV is more common than we think, that “almost everyone has it”, that it’s “no biggie.” He said to take care of my body and just go on...
Betty’s Rock ‘n Roll Orgasm Technique
People always ask about Betty's Rock 'n Roll orgasm technique. She spells it out in First Time Orgasm, and Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique Basically, you're lying on your back with your legs bent hip distance apart...rock your pelvis...
Awakening the Clitoris
After hearing countless sex histories from girls and women over the past four decades, I believe sexual repression begins the moment a parent or caregiver punishes a child’s natural curiosity for touching their own sex organs. Society needs to understand that the...
I Put My Clit on the Line . . . Literally
Anyone who follows us on facebook/youtube knows that we were in Oslo, Norway last August. We were sworn to secrecy and couldn't reveal the details of our "secret sex mission"...until now. Betty had been invited by NRK television to do a private session on camera. We...
Why is Everyone Scared of STIs?
Hi Dr. Betty, First off (and I know you've heard this from me a million times before): love the site, love the work you are doing, and you are absolutely my #1 sex guru forever. I turn to you again for advice on a situation I am finding particularly difficult in my...