My First Sexual Experience Was Assault

My First Sexual Experience Was Assault

I resisted writing about the topic of nonconsensual touch. I’ve learned that whenever I experience resistance, it’s something that I need to explore. So here I am, about to share a memory that I haven’t talked about much. I grew up in the Ohio countryside, surrounded...
Non Consensual Touch

Non Consensual Touch

Non Consensual Touch We share our experiences with being touched without permission. Browse the links below to read the full post. When Harm Isn’t Touch, It’s Words “Now I watch my 14-year-old granddaughter, happy, confident, and she’s being teased....
My Body is Mine

My Body is Mine

Non-consensual touch started young for me. I had to kiss or hug my uncles and aunties when I saw them… and, because ‘she meant well’ and ‘it’s how she is’, it was okay for my Italian neighbour to pinch my cheeks – hard! Fortunately for me, while those things were...
My Body Knew The Whole Time

My Body Knew The Whole Time

I knew when I was three. My mom always told me that if anyone ever asked to see or touch my body to tell her immediately. Always come and tell. When I was three years old we lived with my parents friend who had teenage boys. They were babysitting me, and they brought...
Saying No Counts

Saying No Counts

Why do some women struggle to say no to unwanted touch? My reflections on a lifetime of boundary violations – from forced childhood hugs to ignored sexual boundaries – and how early experiences teach us our bodies aren’t our own. If you’ve ever felt unable to protect...