Bodysex is My Preference
When you devote your career to sexuality, most people want to know: what was your top sexual experience? And they think that you’re going to describe an orgy or threesome or international sex party. I’m not saying that I haven’t enjoyed those experiences; I think...
I Finally Gave Myself Permission
For many years, I didn’t even consider that I had preferences for anything. “Where do you want to go for lunch?” “Anywhere is fine with me” was always my pat response. I found a way to like – or maybe a better word is accept – most anything. I accommodated the...
My Preference is to say “No”
I have long struggled with how to say no. My sexual preferences in my 20s were loosely defined and dependent on the partners I had during that phase of my life. I would try anything once, and there was no absolute limit on what I would do if I liked a person enough....
How My Sexual Preferences Changed in My 20s, 30s and 40s
Do sexual preferences change with age? Absolutely, and mine are proof. This is how my sexual desires evolved decade by decade. Discovering My Sexual Preferences Sexual preferences aren’t fixed. I notice how mine shifted with time, partners, body changes, and life...
Furious to Curious
It starts in my face, tension, clench and contraction. Unrelenting, trapped in my eyebrows and my pursed lips. I take a deep breath and try to soften even a little. Maybe it’s left over frustration from something earlier in the day. I go back to massaging my vulva,...
Orgasms Aren’t One Way
Once safely out of the driveway, I unbuttoned my pants, grabbed the vibe from the passenger seat where I’d tossed it as I’d gotten into the car, and clicked it on. It felt good over my jeans. Driving masturbation is a delicate balance between your inner eyes settling...
The Work of Arousal: Learning to Stay with Myself
“Arousal” I hear the word and instantly I have parts of me blaring inside. These parts bounce around my mind, confused, looking for clues in the crevices of my brain, ruffling through old memories of things that were logged as turn ons at some point. It’s almost like...
Arousal
We share our experiences with arousal. Browse the links below to read the full post.My Arousal " For me, arousal can be an end in itself. I can just enjoy it without having to do anything about it.".by Laura BogushExcitation "For me, touch can be a way to tap into my...
My Arousal
I love feeling sexually aroused. My vulva feels warm and tingly. My breath and heartbeat quicken. My senses are alert.The sun shines brighter.Every aroma smells robust,My skin welcomes every touch.Foods taste delicious. I feel alive. Arousal isn’t a necessarily a...
Bodysex Is A Healing Force
As I packed my bags for our upcoming workshop, there was a certain heaviness that I couldn’t shake. Usually, I feel excited to meet the women and get a change in scenery. However, our new normal is crisis and chaos - unknown actors and undefinable risk. How would it...
Arousal: What It Is and It Is Not
Ugh, arousal even trying to think about my arousal, makes me groan and roll my eyes. Who talks about such things. What the hell is arousal anyways? Arousal, desire, sex drive, libido all seem like a complex mumbo gumbo word problem. Breathe, well in true nerd...
Waves of Arousal
The timing of this blog couldn’t be any more perfect. Recently, I decided to stop taking birth control. I’ve had my share of experiences with birth control for over a decade now. I had an I.U.D for three years and started to have anxiety about the tiny plastic...
Arousal Is Interesting
In 1992, just before the ninth grade I got braces. And headgear, which I was told to endure for 22 hours a day, but only wore at night because I just couldn’t wear the contraption to school. My orthodontist hung polaroids of his patients in their various stages of...
Excitation
Céline wrote in German.Use Google translate in the Chrome browser to read in English or another language Erst Mal scheint Erregung ein ganz einfaches Thema zu sein Ich erkenne einen für mich sexuell relevanten Reiz und werde erregt. Sprich meine Genitalien...
Feeling Full and At Ease
I always think of a word to sum up a Bodysex Workshop. My word for May’s workshop is ease: “to be free from something that pains, disquiets, or burdens.” The day before the workshop, there were some bumps. Carlin’s flight was late which made getting the equipment to...