Arousal: What It Is and It Is Not

Arousal: What It Is and It Is Not

Ugh, arousal even trying to think about my arousal, makes me groan and roll my eyes.  Who talks about such things. What the hell is arousal anyways? Arousal, desire, sex drive, libido all seem like a complex mumbo gumbo word problem.  Breathe, well in true nerd...
Penetration: Pain or Pleasure?

Penetration: Pain or Pleasure?

It is so funny that I never thought while exploring my body as a young teen, that putting my fingers in my vagina or using a tampon was self-penetration. Well, of course it was. I eventually explored self- penetration with makeshift dildos such as empty roll-on...
Making Pleasure a Priority

Making Pleasure a Priority

Self pleasure has waxed and waned over my life time; however, it has always remained essential to my well being. As a child, pleasure seemed so simple, natural and abundant. As I reflect, pleasure was all about physical movement and tactile sensations. I loved my...
Born Angry

Born Angry

The earliest emotion I can remember having is anger. Born in the early 1960’s, I had parents that were born in the 1930’s, an age where men and women’s roles were distinctly defined and those roles were upheld in legislation and in religious communities.  Then came...