Gut-Punched by the Dobbs Decision
I was a teenager in 1973 when Roe v. Wade was decided by the Supreme Court. The 70’s was a time when women gained so many basic rights – The right to own a home The right to have a credit card The right to work while pregnant Just to name a few. I was optimistic about...
The Fullness of Motherhood and the Need for Choice
I have three amazing beautiful little kids aged 13, 10, and 6. Often times when I’m out alone with the kids or with my husband most people passing by make comments like “phew I bet you’re busy”, or “i bet your hands are full”. These people aren’t wrong, not only are...
The Abortion Issue is a Red Herring
During my fertile years I had one abortion, one miscarriage, and one foster daughter. Because of the diligent work of The Janes and the wise women in the 1960s and 70s, when I had an abortion at 21 in 1999, I had a different experience than many in the past. My mom...
Abortion: A Self-Reflection
As a child born in the early 1960’s the message was simple: abortion is a sin and so is sex outside of marriage. So, I never thought much about abortions or marriage. Then at the age of 12, I remember my teacher asking if there are any circumstances when abortion is...
Sexual Myths
Our coaches wrote about the sexual myths that held us back and how we overcame them. Browse the links below to read the full post.The Myth About My Sexuality "From the moment I was told that a vagina smelled like fish, I started washing myself with soap"by Bernadette...
I Didn’t Know I Was Good at Sex
For most of my life, I believed that I just wasn’t good at sex. I considered myself to be later bloomer with partner sex. I was 31 when I had intercourse for the first time. After about an hour of kissing and touching, we went to my bedroom. I was aroused and eager. I...
Death and Renewal to Sexual Lies I No Longer Believe
I recently heard a famous woman remark about how ugly her pussy had become now that she was older and my heart broke. She’s brilliant, hilarious, creative, and I knew the words weren’t hers. I suspect she’d been taught, like so many of us, that denigrating her pussy...
The Lie of the Prize and My Shift to Power
“How to Make Him Love You” “50 Tips to Blow His Mind in Bed”“Make Him Yours”“Man Melting Massage”“100 Hottest Women” These were the messages on Cosmo covers I read throughout my adolescence. Nobody told me it outright but the biggest take aways I got from this was how...
Oh the Lies
I was pondering what are myths? I started with google and found Joseph Campbell’s and Wikipedia’s definition of myths and their functions. I never realized there where so many definitions and functions of myths and how my culture is ladened with myth, not just sexual...
Mine and Mine Alone
Sweet 16. Butterflies.Hours of kissing.Deliciousness in his touch.Subtle hints when softly brushing past my breasts.Accidentally, yet intentionally.Opening the button of my pants, hinting. Leaving it at that.Hot breaths sparking between us.Lust. Desire.So much...
The Myth About My Sexuality
For English, right click and choose translate while in the Chrome browser Als tiener bracht ik zomers veel tijd door in het zwembad. Ik genoot ervan om in het water te duiken of onder water het hele bad over te zwemmen. We speelden vaak balspelletjes: de jongens...
I Thought Was Too Much
“You’re a gay man trapped in a woman’s body”, announced my boyfriend as he grabbed my upper arms and forcibly pushed me off of his body. I was stunned….and hurt. I thought it would be sexy to crawl up his body like a cat and lick his face. He didn’t agree. It was...
Everything Was Better with Betty
“Did you meet the hot girl with the green eyes?” “Green eyes?, I thought to myself as I ran through all the people I met during orientation. I was 14 years-old - I’d overheard this conversation while stocking shelves on the first day of my new job. I remember...
Remembering Betty
In honor of her 95th birthday, we wrote about how Betty changed our lives. Browse the links below to read the full post.Everything Was Better With Betty "Slowly, I began to see myself as Betty saw me. ."by Carlin RossPleasure at End-of-Life "She would never ask anyone...
Betty
Betty, oohh Betty, sexy generous and cool Betty. That goddess introduced me to a community, to Carlin, to love and respect, to generosity and security. She taught me that time is important and it's not. She taught me how to become an abstract body that is no longer...