Mapping the Nerves of the Internal Clitoris
Recently, Dr. Ju Young Lee built upon the research of Dr. Helen O'Connell and created a complete 3D mapping of the nerves of the clitoris. What they found was extraordinary. There are several complex tree-like branching nerves that innervate the mons pubis, clitoral...
Masturbation Practice
Masturbation Practice We share our routines for self-pleasure. Browse the links below to read the full post.Practice for Exploration and Discovery "When and if masturbation starts to feel like a chore, and it does sometimes, I do something to shake it up like switch...
I’m Not Motivated by Feelings of Sexual Desire
I rarely feel aroused these days. The barrage of sexual violence – the continual gaslighting – the deliberate denial of women’s healthcare. It’s exhausting. Every time Congress votes on the SAVE Act my vagina goes dry and my clit shrivels. Despite all of this, I...
Masturbation: A Good Habit
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been touching my vulva and feeling pleasure. My true masturbation practice began when I was around thirteen. Although I don’t specifically remember my first orgasm, I’m sure that’s when I started to masturbate regularly, usually...
The Gift of “Me Time”
Bodysex reminded me of how significant masturbation is and what it means to stay intimate with my own body. As a married and sexually active woman, I still enjoy that self love and attention. Over the past decade or so, we’ve witnessed an increase in societal...
Practice for Exploration and Discovery
I was careening down the highway in my Sprinter van, headed to a shamanic retreat, my vibrator on a low setting, pressing through my jeans. It’s not what I usually think of as practice, but given that I orgasmed and then went at it again fifteen or so minutes later, I...
It’s Not Really About Finding the Time
When I say I don’t have time to masturbate, what I usually mean is that I didn’t prioritize it. Whether I prioritize it depends entirely on what I believe those fifteen minutes are worth. My everyday life looks like a lot of women’s. I’m a mother, I’m home with my...
Envy and Competition
Envy and Competition We wrote about our experience with competition and envy. Browse the links below to read the full post.How I Learned That Women Compete For Men "In a culture that prizes youth and beauty, she thought her value was diminishing as I was growing into...
Envy Undermined My Relationships
“Everything for you is effortless”, he snarled as I feverishly typed the last paragraph of my history paper due the next morning. Effortless? Did he not see the sweat on my upper lip or that I was wearing my waitress uniform trying to finish before a dinner shift?...
How I Learned That Women Compete for Men
“You are no competition for me,” she said. “He was mine first. It’s not fair!” I screamed in rage. “All is fair in love and war,” she replied. We were arguing over Fred. Her words stabbed me in my heart. I was 14, He was 18. The other woman was 38 – and my mother. It...
First Moon Ceremony
I knew before I knew. Not because she said anything. Not because there were signs anyone else would notice. But somewhere in me, there was the same quiet instinct I’d had felt before birth. A gathering. A preparing. I found myself buying candles, choosing little...
Distance
This blog post was really hard for me to write but here goes nothing, or everything rather. I still struggle with competition and envy between women, but for me it often shows up less like jealousy and more like disconnection. When a woman feels “put together”, I...
What Envy Taught Me
I have envied all my life. Wanting all the things other people had that I believed would somehow make me more worthy, more lovable, more enough. Thinner.Braver.Stronger.Powerful.Articulate.Athletic.Patient.Better at sports, golf, business, conversation, life. I spent...
Taking Pleasure Off the Shelf
I’ve wanted to be a part of Bodysex for the past 35 years, even without ever really knowing what it meant. At 19 years old, I was sitting with my mother watching an episode of HBO’s Real Sex. It was the Betty Dodson “Sex for One” pilot episode that aired in 1990,...
Spring Bodysex Retreat
Leading my spring Bodysex retreat was easeful and sweet. Not on purpose, I’ve ended up with a hot pink, gray, and yellow color theme which makes the space feel rather dreamy. Here are some of my takeaways from the weekend. Participating in a Bodysex Retreat is an...
Motherhood
Motherhood We wrote about our experience with motherhood, whether we have children or not. Browse the links below to read the full post.Parenthood "I wanted 2 daughters, I had one, and I ended up with none,” by ForestI Can Mother Myself "Motherhood didn’t just teach...