Articles
Read articles and blog posts written by Betty Dodson, Carlin Ross, Bodysex Facilitators, and guest writers
My Body is Mine
Non-consensual touch started young for me. I had to kiss or hug my uncles and aunties when I saw them… and, because ‘she meant well’ and ‘it’s how she is’, it was okay for my Italian neighbour to pinch my cheeks – hard! Fortunately for me, while those things were...
My Body Knew The Whole Time
I knew when I was three. My mom always told me that if anyone ever asked to see or touch my body to tell her immediately. Always come and tell. When I was three years old we lived with my parents friend who had teenage boys. They were babysitting me, and they brought...
Saying No Counts
Why do some women struggle to say no to unwanted touch? My reflections on a lifetime of boundary violations – from forced childhood hugs to ignored sexual boundaries – and how early experiences teach us our bodies aren’t our own. If you’ve ever felt unable to protect...
You Are Not Defined By What Happened To You
I went to college a virgin. I’ve written about this in previous blogs. I was ashamed and felt inadequate. I even wrote to Betty Dodson back when that was a feature on her website, and she gave me the advice you’d expect. Be sexual with yourself first; partner sex can...
As Long as We’re Still Breathing We Have The Power To Change
When I was 17, my mom’s boyfriend’s 15 year old son climbed on top of me one night and started kissing me. His actions would launch a short affair that was, for the most part, my sex education - the ground for which I learned things about sex I hadn’t known before. We...
When the Harm Isn’t Touch, It’s Words
I don’t have any recollection of a time when I was touched without consent. I’ve thought about it. I’ve really looked. Nothing. I know that’s not the story many women carry, and I don’t take that lightly. But when I dug deeper, what kept coming up for me wasn’t touch....
Multiple Orgasms
Multiple Orgasms We wrote about our experence with having more than one orgasm. Browse the links below to read the full post.From Praying for One to Having Multiple: My Orgasm Story "Multiple orgasms are just the natural result of understanding how your body actually...
An Afternoon Date with Myself
I tend to be “one and done” when I orgasm by myself. My first orgasm often feels good enough to “scratch my itch,” release some happy hormones, and relax my body. I usually feel satisfied, so I rarely go for another when I’m alone. Masturbation is usually just part of...
From Praying for One to Having Multiple: My Orgasm Story
Can women really have multiple orgasms? I thought it was a myth until BodySex taught me otherwise. This is my transformation from desperately hoping for one orgasm to being multiorgasmic by choice. I used to wish, hope, and pray for an orgasm. I never knew when it was...
Giving Myself Enough Time Helps Me Achieve Multiple Orgasms
When I first heard the term ‘multiple orgasms’, I wondered what that meant. I can’t remember how old I was – probably my late teens. I don’t think I was even consciously aware of what an orgasm was at the time – let alone multiple orgasms. I knew I experienced...
My Best Orgasms Are with Myself
I have been self sexual since early adolescence. There’s research to suggest that it takes less time for me to achieve orgasm as a result of this long-standing relationship I’ve had with myself. Even as a person who has been sexually active with myself for as long as...
Yes, I Plan My Multiple Orgasms
Important disclaimer: This is what I know to be true about my body and my techniques right now, it is not what has always been true and might not be what is always true going forward. Should my body shift and change as bodies do for all the reasons, hormones, age,...
Multiple Orgasms are a Mindset as Much as Anything Else
Because it’s not a matter of “if,” but “right stimulation for the right amount of time,” multiple orgasms are a mindset as much as anything else. I’m not necessarily waiting to have sex until I feel “turned on.” I might be turned on before I start or I might cultivate...
I Can Survive Anything with Orgasm
Since the very start of 2026, I’ve felt emotionally raw, ready to cry at any moment. There’s a tightness in my chest, a lump in my throat, and tears just behind my eyes when I think about the state of the world. The sad, inevitable end of an important relationship is...
How to Use Your Body to Survive 2026
2026 started with a bang: Venezuela. Minnesota protests. Greenland. Journalists arrested. This political firestorm is pulling at my soul, demanding my attention, threatening to drag me into the spiral of doom-scrolling and helpless rage. What world am I living in, and...
Orgasm for Survival
Orgasm. The brink. The edge. The what’s so of our world. Both the stir and cauldron of creation. The hallway of myth making. We use it to bring us to our knees and then to stand back up again. To process. To engender. To behold. To not only resist wrong...
Nervous System Reset
Art titled "Play with Your Body" by Betty Dodson Today in the news, I saw that Bernie Sanders was a fan of Wilhelm Reich in his college days. This was reported in the Daily Mail, a conservative tabloid. No doubt the spin on the story was negative. But, I thought to...
Orgasm Is A Practice
I roll around in my soft comfy bed and see the daylight shine through with a big ol grin on my face. I just had two hot and steamy dreams. A teacher I had in school pulled up his pant leg and showed me something that got me totally hot for teacher, to give you a hint...
Did Someone Say Orgasms are a Survival Tool?
Yesterday, I planned today like it was going to run as if it were a well-oiled machine. It did not. By 9.45am I was sitting across town in my car crying. I put a Simon Sinek “8 Minute Call” text out to my bestie. That 16-minute conversation (I talk a lot!) made things...
Resistance
We wrote about resistance to connecting with our bodies for pleasure. Browse the links below to read the full post.Resistance to Pleasure: Choosing Joy When Life Breaks Down "I dropped into my body and my nervous system softened. Two hours later, I calmly looked at...
Choosing to Align
Last summer I started using my masturbation practice to process some things only to remember a past me also did this, though not in front of a full length mirror with a pile of toys, oils, and lube next to me. It was in ancient times before the pandemic so I’d...
I Let the Orgasm Come to Me
I’ve always been orgasmic. My parents didn’t get the memo that I should be discouraged from touching my vulva as a child. I remember exploring my genitals as a preschooler. It felt good. When hormones brought me orgasms at puberty, I masturbated multiple times a day....
I Can Trust in Bodysex
“Bodysex is a labor of love”, I remind myself while packing my suitcase - my phone set to a live FAA airport tracker. There’s nothing like having 12 women, including myself, flying in from all over the world during a government shutdown. I felt my jaw tightening and...
My Experience with Orgasm
I’ve been orgasmic since a young age. Before I knew what was happening in my body. Luckily, I had parents who were sex positive and never shamed me for touching myself. Young kids are caught touching themselves, and for young girls, this often is their first...