by Tosh Patterson | May 5, 2026
When childhood trauma shapes your relationship to safety, motherhood decisions become infinitely complex. This is my journey through fertility struggles, and learning to trust my body’s wisdom about whether I was ready to become the protector I never had. Can I trust...
by Tosh Patterson | Apr 13, 2026
Why do some women struggle to say no to unwanted touch? My reflections on a lifetime of boundary violations – from forced childhood hugs to ignored sexual boundaries – and how early experiences teach us our bodies aren’t our own. If you’ve ever felt unable to protect...
by Tosh Patterson | Mar 28, 2026
Can women really have multiple orgasms? I thought it was a myth until BodySex taught me otherwise. This is my transformation from desperately hoping for one orgasm to being multiorgasmic by choice. I used to wish, hope, and pray for an orgasm. I never knew when it was...
by Tosh Patterson | Feb 28, 2026
2026 started with a bang: Venezuela. Minnesota protests. Greenland. Journalists arrested. This political firestorm is pulling at my soul, demanding my attention, threatening to drag me into the spiral of doom-scrolling and helpless rage. What world am I living in, and...
by Tosh Patterson | Jan 14, 2026
What does it mean to be pleasure-centered when everything is falling apart? Three moments from my life where I experienced resistance and learning to trust that I deserve to feel good. Touch, Arousal, Then Desire Pleasure is how I hack my nervous system when it gets...
by Tosh Patterson | Nov 18, 2025
What does a real orgasm sound like? My personal story about discovering the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and what porn has taught us to expect. The Moment I Discovered My Real Orgasm Sound His head was between my legs. “That’s it. That’s the sound I’ve...
