Articles
Read articles and blog posts written by Betty Dodson, Carlin Ross, Bodysex Facilitators, and guest writers
Happy to be a Childless Mother
I hold a lot of mothering energy within me. I tend to be a caregiver; nurturing, and supportive while still being able to take charge and make things happen. I don’t know if I naturally hold big mom energy or if I was encouraged to develop it. Both of my parents...
Motherhood Chose Me
I knew I’d become a mother later in life. It’s probably why I never thought about fertility or finding the right partner. If I was going to finish law school and establish a career, then I had to put my personal life on the back burner. Delaying motherhood felt right...
Conscious Motherhood
I never wanted to be a mother. I felt that way since I was a little girl. Perhaps this was related to my childhood and having many siblings from my parents’ marriages. Marriage and childhood weren’t a choice for my grandmothers, and I watched how this affected them....
When No One Protected You: Making Motherhood Decisions After Trauma
When childhood trauma shapes your relationship to safety, motherhood decisions become infinitely complex. This is my journey through fertility struggles, and learning to trust my body’s wisdom about whether I was ready to become the protector I never had. Can I trust...
I Can Mother Myself
The way my whole body softened at the idea was like liquid warmth. “How lucky you are to be such an amazing mom, you already know how to care for yourself, the exact same way you’ve been caring for your kids.” One of my best friends told me this after coming out of a...
Parenthood
Part One: Becoming Parents “Do you get to choose how many kids you have?” my 7 year old niece asked me last week. “Sometimes,” I replied. She cocked her head at me. “I wanted 2 daughters, I had one, and I ended up with none,” I said. Her mouth fell open. ...
The Wise Auntie: Celebrating Childfree Life
Mine is a childfree life… Over time I’ve come to realise that the idea of having children was driven by the societal norm of my era… it was never a desire I had… it was just what I was supposed to do in my 20s. Get married, have kids. In my 20s and early 30s I thought...
Becoming a Woman Meant My Body was Not My Own – That my Body could make Good Men do Bad Things
I was raised in a Christian Fundamentalist family. We didn’t go to school. We didn’t own a television. Growing up every piece of clothing I ever wore came out of a goodwill bag except for my Easter dress. Easter was the most holy holiday when Jesus resurrected from...
My First Sexual Experience Was Assault
I resisted writing about the topic of nonconsensual touch. I’ve learned that whenever I experience resistance, it’s something that I need to explore. So here I am, about to share a memory that I haven’t talked about much. I grew up in the Ohio countryside, surrounded...
Mapping the Nerves of the Internal Clitoris
Recently, Dr. Ju Young Lee built upon the research of Dr. Helen O'Connell and created a complete 3D mapping of the nerves of the clitoris. What they found was extraordinary. There are several complex tree-like branching nerves that innervate the mons pubis, clitoral...
My Body is Mine
Non-consensual touch started young for me. I had to kiss or hug my uncles and aunties when I saw them… and, because ‘she meant well’ and ‘it’s how she is’, it was okay for my Italian neighbour to pinch my cheeks – hard! Fortunately for me, while those things were...
My Body Knew The Whole Time
I knew when I was three. My mom always told me that if anyone ever asked to see or touch my body to tell her immediately. Always come and tell. When I was three years old we lived with my parents friend who had teenage boys. They were babysitting me, and they brought...
Saying No Counts
Why do some women struggle to say no to unwanted touch? My reflections on a lifetime of boundary violations – from forced childhood hugs to ignored sexual boundaries – and how early experiences teach us our bodies aren’t our own. If you’ve ever felt unable to protect...
You Are Not Defined By What Happened To You
I went to college a virgin. I’ve written about this in previous blogs. I was ashamed and felt inadequate. I even wrote to Betty Dodson back when that was a feature on her website, and she gave me the advice you’d expect. Be sexual with yourself first; partner sex can...
As Long as We’re Still Breathing We Have The Power To Change
When I was 17, my mom’s boyfriend’s 15 year old son climbed on top of me one night and started kissing me. His actions would launch a short affair that was, for the most part, my sex education - the ground for which I learned things about sex I hadn’t known before. We...
When the Harm Isn’t Touch, It’s Words
I don’t have any recollection of a time when I was touched without consent. I’ve thought about it. I’ve really looked. Nothing. I know that’s not the story many women carry, and I don’t take that lightly. But when I dug deeper, what kept coming up for me wasn’t touch....
Multiple Orgasms
Multiple Orgasms We wrote about our experence with having more than one orgasm. Browse the links below to read the full post.From Praying for One to Having Multiple: My Orgasm Story "Multiple orgasms are just the natural result of understanding how your body actually...
An Afternoon Date with Myself
I tend to be “one and done” when I orgasm by myself. My first orgasm often feels good enough to “scratch my itch,” release some happy hormones, and relax my body. I usually feel satisfied, so I rarely go for another when I’m alone. Masturbation is usually just part of...
From Praying for One to Having Multiple: My Orgasm Story
Can women really have multiple orgasms? I thought it was a myth until BodySex taught me otherwise. This is my transformation from desperately hoping for one orgasm to being multiorgasmic by choice. I used to wish, hope, and pray for an orgasm. I never knew when it was...
Giving Myself Enough Time Helps Me Achieve Multiple Orgasms
When I first heard the term ‘multiple orgasms’, I wondered what that meant. I can’t remember how old I was – probably my late teens. I don’t think I was even consciously aware of what an orgasm was at the time – let alone multiple orgasms. I knew I experienced...
My Best Orgasms Are with Myself
I have been self sexual since early adolescence. There’s research to suggest that it takes less time for me to achieve orgasm as a result of this long-standing relationship I’ve had with myself. Even as a person who has been sexually active with myself for as long as...
Yes, I Plan My Multiple Orgasms
Important disclaimer: This is what I know to be true about my body and my techniques right now, it is not what has always been true and might not be what is always true going forward. Should my body shift and change as bodies do for all the reasons, hormones, age,...
Multiple Orgasms are a Mindset as Much as Anything Else
Because it’s not a matter of “if,” but “right stimulation for the right amount of time,” multiple orgasms are a mindset as much as anything else. I’m not necessarily waiting to have sex until I feel “turned on.” I might be turned on before I start or I might cultivate...
I Can Survive Anything with Orgasm
Since the very start of 2026, I’ve felt emotionally raw, ready to cry at any moment. There’s a tightness in my chest, a lump in my throat, and tears just behind my eyes when I think about the state of the world. The sad, inevitable end of an important relationship is...