My Experience with Orgasm

My Experience with Orgasm

I’ve been orgasmic since a young age. Before I knew what was happening in my body. Luckily, I had parents who were sex positive and never shamed me for touching myself. Young kids are caught touching themselves, and for young girls, this often is their first...
My Preference is to say “No”

My Preference is to say “No”

I have long struggled with how to say no. My sexual preferences in my 20s were loosely defined and dependent on the partners I had during that phase of my life. I would try anything once, and there was no absolute limit on what I would do if I liked a person enough....
Waves of Arousal

Waves of Arousal

The timing of this blog couldn’t be any more perfect. Recently, I decided to stop taking  birth control. I’ve had my share of experiences with birth control for over a decade now. I had an  I.U.D for three years and started to have anxiety about the tiny plastic...
Penetrate Yourself First

Penetrate Yourself First

I was a frustrated virgin. I had gone to college without having had penetrative sex and  decided that not only did it mean I was undesirable but that there was something wrong with me.  That was affirmed by the first person I hooked up with. When I told him I was a...
Pleasure is Soft

Pleasure is Soft

Pleasure is soft and easy. It may not come quickly to those who believe themselves  undeserving or who have endured terrible trauma, but we are all hard-wired for pleasure.  Arriving at pleasure is not easy, but the experience of pleasure is the definition of ease....
My Anger Experience

My Anger Experience

Photo: A wood burning I made to remind myself to let my Heart unfurl and feel it all A couple of years ago, one of my best friends had her I.U.D. removed. Notoriously, I.U.D. insertion is painful and traumatizing. The cramps from insertion mimic labor contractions....