Non Consensual Touch

Non Consensual Touch

Published April 15, 2026

Non Consensual Touch

We share our experiences with being touched without consent.

Browse the links below to read the full post.

When Harm Isn’t Touch, It’s Words

“Now I watch my 14-year-old granddaughter, happy, confident, and she’s being teased. And I feel it all again, the shame, the protection, the wanting to disappear, the wanting to be chosen..”

by Susan

You Are Not Defined By What Happened To You

“I think there’s a somatic, ancient, and deep shame that is not hard for women to tap into. Our initial response to these incidents, especially when talking to men, even ones we trust, is to blame ourselves.

by Kaylea Forsythe

As Long as We’re Still Breathing We Have The Power To Change

“To my fierce young warrior self, I see you. I see that you needed the comfort and protection of a parent. Every single one of your actions was justified. I see how frightened you were and how it robbed you of your softness and curiosity. You who crumbled, hardened, and hid are not alone anymore. I’m just sorry it took me so long to arrive here with you.”
by Forest

Saying No Counts

“Learning to say NO has been my path back to my body. Every boundary I enforce teaches my nervous system that I can be trusted to protect myself. Every time I choose my comfort over someone else’s convenience, I practice radical self-love.”
by Tosh Patterson

My Body Knew The Whole Time

“What stands out now isn’t just what happened, it’s how quickly I learned to question myself, how fast something clear could become confusing. What changed wasn’t my knowing. My body knew the whole time. What shifted was my trust in it. Society teaches women to doubt themselves, to second guess their bodies and instincts. But deep down we know.”
by Lakota Fradette

My Body Is Mine

 

“Turning 60 this year, almost (I hope) passing through menopause, with less estrogen in my system, I remain the person who chooses and actively step in anywhere someone steps across a consensual line – for myself (it rarely happens these days) and for women who are friends, acquaintances or total strangers. May all your touches – erotic or otherwise – always be consensual..”
by Jacqui Chaplin

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