Envy and Competition

Envy and Competition

Published July 16, 2026

Envy and Competition

We wrote about our experience with competition and envy.

Browse the links below to read the full post.

How I Learned That Women Compete For Men

“In a culture that prizes youth and beauty, she thought her value was diminishing as I was growing into my own attractiveness as a young woman.”
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by Laura Bogush

Envy Undermined My Relationships

“With Betty, I could say anything that popped into my mind; I could be completely unfiltered. There was no play for dominance in our conversation.”
by Carlin Ross

Distance

“When a woman feels “put together”, I often lose access to her. I can feel myself place her above me, and in that moment I no longer know how to approach her as an equal.”
by Lakota Fradette

What Envy Taught Me

“What I know now is that I was never truly longing to be them. I was longing to become myself.
by Susan

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