Articles
Read articles and blog posts written by Betty Dodson, Carlin Ross, Bodysex Facilitators, and guest writers
Multiple Orgasms: My Process to Achieve
Because it’s not a matter of “if,” but “right stimulation for the right amount of time,” multiple orgasms are a mindset as much as anything else. I’m not necessarily waiting to have sex until I feel “turned on.” I might be turned on before I start or I might cultivate...
I Can Survive Anything with Orgasm
Since the very start of 2026, I’ve felt emotionally raw, ready to cry at any moment. There’s a tightness in my chest, a lump in my throat, and tears just behind my eyes when I think about the state of the world. The sad, inevitable end of an important relationship is...
How to Use Your Body to Survive 2026
2026 started with a bang: Venezuela. Minnesota protests. Greenland. Journalists arrested. This political firestorm is pulling at my soul, demanding my attention, threatening to drag me into the spiral of doom-scrolling and helpless rage. What world am I living in, and...
Orgasm for Survival
Orgasm. The brink. The edge. The what’s so of our world. Both the stir and cauldron of creation. The hallway of myth making. We use it to bring us to our knees and then to stand back up again. To process. To engender. To behold. To not only resist wrong...
Nervous System Reset
Art titled "Play with Your Body" by Betty Dodson Today in the news, I saw that Bernie Sanders was a fan of Wilhelm Reich in his college days. This was reported in the Daily Mail, a conservative tabloid. No doubt the spin on the story was negative. But, I thought to...
Orgasm Is A Practice
I roll around in my soft comfy bed and see the daylight shine through with a big ol grin on my face. I just had two hot and steamy dreams. A teacher I had in school pulled up his pant leg and showed me something that got me totally hot for teacher, to give you a hint...
Did Someone Say Orgasms are a Survival Tool?
Yesterday, I planned today like it was going to run as if it were a well-oiled machine. It did not. By 9.45am I was sitting across town in my car crying. I put a Simon Sinek “8 Minute Call” text out to my bestie. That 16-minute conversation (I talk a lot!) made things...
Resistance
We wrote about resistance to connecting with our bodies for pleasure. Browse the links below to read the full post.Resistance to Pleasure: Choosing Joy When Life Breaks Down "I dropped into my body and my nervous system softened. Two hours later, I calmly looked at...
Choosing to Align
Last summer I started using my masturbation practice to process some things only to remember a past me also did this, though not in front of a full length mirror with a pile of toys, oils, and lube next to me. It was in ancient times before the pandemic so I’d...
I Let the Orgasm Come to Me
I’ve always been orgasmic. My parents didn’t get the memo that I should be discouraged from touching my vulva as a child. I remember exploring my genitals as a preschooler. It felt good. When hormones brought me orgasms at puberty, I masturbated multiple times a day....
I Can Trust in Bodysex
“Bodysex is a labor of love”, I remind myself while packing my suitcase - my phone set to a live FAA airport tracker. There’s nothing like having 12 women, including myself, flying in from all over the world during a government shutdown. I felt my jaw tightening and...
My Experience with Orgasm
I’ve been orgasmic since a young age. Before I knew what was happening in my body. Luckily, I had parents who were sex positive and never shamed me for touching myself. Young kids are caught touching themselves, and for young girls, this often is their first...
The Moment I Discovered My Real Orgasm Sound
What does a real orgasm sound like? My personal story about discovering the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and what porn has taught us to expect. The Moment I Discovered My Real Orgasm Sound His head was between my legs. “That’s it. That’s the sound I’ve...
Pleasure is No Longer a Secret
I am my own religion. That didn’t come from faith; it came from exhaustion — from learning that no god was coming to protect me. I grew up in a country that confuses discipline with dignity, silence with virtue. I learned too soon what violence can do to a child’s...
My Preferences
Choosing the Discernment of Verisimilitude Over Nescience By Way of Preferences They weren’t a bad lay, but we were quite mismatched in terms of a lasting relationship. We were fucking one night a month or so into discovering this about each other and then, rather...
Bodysex is My Preference
When you devote your career to sexuality, most people want to know: what was your top sexual experience? And they think that you’re going to describe an orgy or threesome or international sex party. I’m not saying that I haven’t enjoyed those experiences; I think...
I Finally Gave Myself Permission
For many years, I didn’t even consider that I had preferences for anything. “Where do you want to go for lunch?” “Anywhere is fine with me” was always my pat response. I found a way to like – or maybe a better word is accept – most anything. I accommodated the...
My Preference is to say “No”
I have long struggled with how to say no. My sexual preferences in my 20s were loosely defined and dependent on the partners I had during that phase of my life. I would try anything once, and there was no absolute limit on what I would do if I liked a person enough....
How My Sexual Preferences Changed in My 20s, 30s and 40s
Do sexual preferences change with age? Absolutely, and mine are proof. This is how my sexual desires evolved decade by decade. Discovering My Sexual Preferences Sexual preferences aren’t fixed. I notice how mine shifted with time, partners, body changes, and life...
Furious to Curious
It starts in my face, tension, clench and contraction. Unrelenting, trapped in my eyebrows and my pursed lips. I take a deep breath and try to soften even a little. Maybe it’s left over frustration from something earlier in the day. I go back to massaging my vulva,...
Orgasms Aren’t One Way
Once safely out of the driveway, I unbuttoned my pants, grabbed the vibe from the passenger seat where I’d tossed it as I’d gotten into the car, and clicked it on. It felt good over my jeans. Driving masturbation is a delicate balance between your inner eyes settling...
The Work of Arousal: Learning to Stay with Myself
“Arousal” I hear the word and instantly I have parts of me blaring inside. These parts bounce around my mind, confused, looking for clues in the crevices of my brain, ruffling through old memories of things that were logged as turn ons at some point. It’s almost like...
My Arousal
I love feeling sexually aroused. My vulva feels warm and tingly. My breath and heartbeat quicken. My senses are alert.The sun shines brighter.Every aroma smells robust,My skin welcomes every touch.Foods taste delicious. I feel alive. Arousal isn’t a necessarily a...
Bodysex Is A Healing Force
As I packed my bags for our upcoming workshop, there was a certain heaviness that I couldn’t shake. Usually, I feel excited to meet the women and get a change in scenery. However, our new normal is crisis and chaos - unknown actors and undefinable risk. How would it...