by Tosh Patterson | Jan 14, 2026 | Tosh Patterson
What does it mean to be pleasure-centered when everything is falling apart? Three moments from my life where I experienced resistance and learning to trust that I deserve to feel good. Touch, Arousal, Then Desire Pleasure is how I hack my nervous system when it gets...
by Tosh Patterson | Nov 18, 2025 | Article, Orgasm, Partner Sex, Tosh Patterson
What does a real orgasm sound like? My personal story about discovering the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and what porn has taught us to expect. The Moment I Discovered My Real Orgasm Sound His head was between my legs. “That’s it. That’s the sound I’ve...
by Tosh Patterson | Oct 8, 2025 | Article, Tosh Patterson
Do sexual preferences change with age? Absolutely, and mine are proof. This is how my sexual desires evolved decade by decade. Discovering My Sexual Preferences Sexual preferences aren’t fixed. I notice how mine shifted with time, partners, body changes, and life...
by Tosh Patterson | Aug 23, 2024 | Article, Betty Dodson, Betty Tribute, Masturbation Techniques, Tosh Patterson
I never met Betty Dodson, but she became my mentor over the years. When she was 80 years old, she shared a tip I’d never heard: use almond oil to lubricate your hands, nipples, AND vulva before self-pleasure. Fast forward a few days, and I finally have some...
by Tosh Patterson | Apr 18, 2024 | Article, Body Connection, Reproductive Health, Tosh Patterson, Women's Health & Wellness
This is the most embarrassing story. And maybe even a little TMI (too much info) but if you stick with me there’s a point. Rewind to 2010. My days were fast-paced. At that time, my to-do list was never-ending. I’d earned two promotions at work so I was part of the...
