Am I Asexual?

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Am I Asexual?

By Betty Dodson

Published March 16, 2017

Hi Dr. Betty,

I don’t know whether I’m asexual or what’s up with me. I’m a 24 year old girl. I can watch porn, get turned on and rub my clit until I orgasm, but whenever I’ve tried sexual things with someone else I just don’t get turned on, if anything their bodily fluids (cum, saliva) disgust me and no amount of foreplay can get me wet

I fantasize about doing stuff with guys (and sometimes girls) and find them aesthetically pleasing to look at in images, but the real life thing doesn’t do anything for me

What’s up with me?

Thank you

J

Dear J,

If you are OK without a sex partner then stay single As long as you are masturbating and enjoying orgasms you are not considered asexual. Instead you are a self-sexual which is a valid lifestyle. Enjoy!

However, I encourage you to create you own fantasies and not to rely only on Internet porn. Fantasy is at the heart of creativity so its very worthwhile to develop. It’s also an indicator of what turns you on.

Dr Betty

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