Articles
Read articles and blog posts written by Betty Dodson, Carlin Ross, Bodysex Facilitators, and guest writers
Pubic Hair
These posts written by our leaders are so good. We can't pick a a favorite. Enjoy. Browse the links below to read the full post.The time I accidently gained an appreciation for my lady garden on the least sexiest day of my life I spent 30 years worrying about...
Free to Be Hair Positive
“And extra cheese on the large pizza, please,” said the woman. I added the changes to their order, and tried to make the action of pushing my pelvis forward so that my pubic mound might brush against the lower part of the counter - even for a second of relief - look...
Finding and Honoring My Preference
The first genital hair that I saw was on my mother’s vulva, full, curly and dark on her pubic mound. She wasn’t shy about being naked around me. I don’t remember any specific conversation about her pubic hair, but I’m sure we had one or several. I was curious and...
From Mother to Daughter: Creating a Positive Puberty Together
I hadn’t realized that I’d been hoping that my daughter would just grow pubic hair, love it, and never want to do anything with it independently until about a week ago. I sat at my computer reading through emails when I heard my daughter say from the bathroom, “Hey,...
I Used to Hate My Pubic Hair
Sitting on the toilet, looking at the newly found dark curly hair between my legs, I feel horrified, and disgusted. I didn’t ask for these hairs, these weren’t supposed to happen until I was a grown adult, what are they doing here on my 9 year old body!? Not only is...
The Story of My Pubic Hair
I don't know how and when it happened that hair started growing on my vulva, it never bothered me, it was part of it. I remember how it was naked, and then all of a sudden it was covered with thick, soft brown fur. The memory of hair growing on other parts of my body...
My Story from the NO HAIR Battlefield
I’ve always been perplexed by the fact that my body is covered in hair, but to be considered a desirable and feminine woman I should not have any hair on my face, armpits, legs, or vulva. And to top it off, I shouldn’t have hair on my butt either now that I live in a...
The time I accidentally gained an appreciation for my lady garden on the least sexiest day of my life
There is no dignity in childbirth. My dream of a homebirth got unceremoniously trashed the moment my baby was discovered to be in breech position with her head under my ribcage instead of down toward my pelvis, ready to be born. They scheduled me for a planned...
Workshop Opening Questions
"By sharing how we feel about our bodies and our orgasms, we create a powerful healing process"- Betty Dodson Read shares from our leaders. Browse the links below to read the full post.Claiming Myself Was Difficult I later learned that bodies with vulvas need time to...
My Bodysex Experience
On my way to my very first BodySex workshop, my heart began beating a familiar beat that occurs when I'm about to do something that I know will have a lasting effect on me. My hands get mildly clammy, my chest warms, and my eyes hyperfocus, taking in everything around...
Finding Patience with My Aging Body While Loving All My Orgasms
How do I feel about my body? Thanks to Bodysex, today I can say that I love my body unconditionally. However, that doesn’t mean that I always like everything about my body. At 65, my latest challenge is finding patience with my aging body. Every decade has brought its...
Housework, Coffee Breaks, and Orgasms
I spent the morning cleaning. I don’t actually like cleaning, but thinking of how I was high up on the ladder cleaning windows, singing along to Allison Russel‘s album ‘The Returner‘ and shaking my butt as though no one was watching (and I’m pretty sure all those...
My Current Relationship with My Body and Orgasm
How do I feel about my body? How do I feel about my orgasm? These two questions always bring my attention and focus right into the exact current moment I’m experiencing. Bringing my focus to how I feel right now in the moment serves to help me understand what my needs...
Claiming Myself Was Difficult
“Your body is like two different bodies put onto one,” he said. At that time, he was the hottest guy I’d ever dated. Tall, blonde, bright blue eyes. I was 27 and my family loved him. “Your upper body is so tiny, bony even, and your lower body is like kinda big,” he...
Self-hatred for Our Bodies is a Form of Bigotry.
In a Bodysex workshop we start out answering these two questions: How do you feel about your body? How do you feel about your orgasm? It is a great way to open! The leader starts sharing, and one by one each participant continues. The leader holds space, and then we...
My Body. My Orgasm.
Each Bodysex Circle starts with a ritual where every woman openly answers the questions, "how do you feel about your body?" and "how do you feel about your orgasm?" Before stepping into the Bodysex sisterhood, I never consciously thought about how I feel about my body...
Bodysex Takes Everything You Have
As we planned our last Bodysex retreat, I signed the largest deal of my life. It felt just like Goop: I was profoundly uncomfortable, second-guessing everything yet clear that I would move forward. I couldn’t miss the opportunity to represent Betty’s message of...
Vulvas are Pure Beauty
I’d licked, sucked, and entered plenty of vulvas but until my first Bodysex retreat I hadn’t ever just gazed at them. I hadn’t experienced simply taking in their shape, folds, and colors. I like vulvas. I like the texture of vulva skin. I like sliding my fingers on...
I Left My Self-Doubt in the Circle
I am in a life long relationship. We’re the same age and met in our early twenties. In our mid fifties each of us started to feel a nagging need for personal growth and self-exploration. We both were looking for an adjustment to our life choices and routines. We both...
Bodysex was My Way Home
“I did not come. Again. Geez, how can this be so difficult. I used to like sex – right!? In fact, I have no idea. Maybe I just liked the idea of sex. Back in the day. Before three kids and a decade of marriage. For some reason, orgasm is suddenly more important than...
My Bodysex Experience
Our Bodysex coaches wrote about a meaningful Bodysex workshop experience. We're inspired. Browse the links below to read the full post.Anything I Do to Any Part of My Body will be Done Solely for MY PLEASURE Bodysex showed me that sexuality has no age limit and...
I Had Followed My Heart and Found My Purpose in Life
I don’t believe that ones true calling or life purpose is always immediately known, but rather something that resonates subtly in the background like distant echos. Throughout life there may be persistent signs or feelings that point toward ones purpose, and over...
Anything I Do to Any Part of My Body will be Done Solely for MY PLEASURE
I am training to become a Bodsex Leader. This summer I attended the Bodysex workshop, as an assistant, to complete part of the certification process. Before arriving at the workshop, I had a serious case of nerves about maneuvering around my large goddess belly while...
It was the Beginning of my It’s Never Too Late
I attended the second to last workshop that Betty and Carlin held in November 2019, not fully understanding until later that it was the beginning of my it's never too late, nontraditional, slowly unfolding, challenging, exciting journey to understanding and being...