Articles
Read articles and blog posts written by Betty Dodson, Carlin Ross, Bodysex Facilitators, and guest writers
I Didn’t Know I Was Good at Sex
For most of my life, I believed that I just wasn’t good at sex. I considered myself to be later bloomer with partner sex. I was 31 when I had intercourse for the first time. After about an hour of kissing and touching, we went to my bedroom. I was aroused and eager. I...
Death and Renewal to Sexual Lies I No Longer Believe
I recently heard a famous woman remark about how ugly her pussy had become now that she was older and my heart broke. She’s brilliant, hilarious, creative, and I knew the words weren’t hers. I suspect she’d been taught, like so many of us, that denigrating her pussy...
The Lie of the Prize and My Shift to Power
“How to Make Him Love You” “50 Tips to Blow His Mind in Bed”“Make Him Yours”“Man Melting Massage”“100 Hottest Women” These were the messages on Cosmo covers I read throughout my adolescence. Nobody told me it outright but the biggest take aways I got from this was how...
Oh the Lies
I was pondering what are myths? I started with google and found Joseph Campbell’s and Wikipedia’s definition of myths and their functions. I never realized there where so many definitions and functions of myths and how my culture is ladened with myth, not just sexual...
Mine and Mine Alone
Sweet 16. Butterflies.Hours of kissing.Deliciousness in his touch.Subtle hints when softly brushing past my breasts.Accidentally, yet intentionally.Opening the button of my pants, hinting. Leaving it at that.Hot breaths sparking between us.Lust. Desire.So much...
The Myth About My Sexuality
For English, right click and choose translate while in the Chrome browser Als tiener bracht ik zomers veel tijd door in het zwembad. Ik genoot ervan om in het water te duiken of onder water het hele bad over te zwemmen. We speelden vaak balspelletjes: de jongens...
I Thought Was Too Much
“You’re a gay man trapped in a woman’s body”, announced my boyfriend as he grabbed my upper arms and forcibly pushed me off of his body. I was stunned….and hurt. I thought it would be sexy to crawl up his body like a cat and lick his face. He didn’t agree. It was...
Everything Was Better with Betty
“Did you meet the hot girl with the green eyes?” “Green eyes?, I thought to myself as I ran through all the people I met during orientation. I was 14 years-old - I’d overheard this conversation while stocking shelves on the first day of my new job. I remember...
Betty
Betty, oohh Betty, sexy generous and cool Betty. That goddess introduced me to a community, to Carlin, to love and respect, to generosity and security. She taught me that time is important and it's not. She taught me how to become an abstract body that is no longer...
My Memories of Betty
“A sister needs our help,” said 87-year-old Betty as she crawled on all fours across the circle and sat next to me. It was my Bodysex certification workshop and we were practicing the breath of fire. To my horror, Betty put her hand on my stomach, my most-hated and...
Tribute to Betty Dodson
I stumbled across Betty Dodson’s life’s work while I was looking for a comprehensive sex program that included nudity. Well, I found that and more. Betty’s books and art work challenged my puritan views of sex and showed me a path to reclaim my sexuality. As I explore...
Thanks to Betty
“But is this grand enough for you, Betty?” I asked aloud to the small bottle of her ashes that sits next to me as I write. “Please help me be succinct without diminishing you but also not put you so high upon a pedestal that you become distorted. And help me write an...
The BEST Sex Advice Betty Shared
I never met Betty Dodson, but she became my mentor over the years. When she was 80 years old, she shared a tip I'd never heard: use almond oil to lubricate your hands, nipples, AND vulva before self-pleasure. Fast forward a few days, and I finally have some alone...
Pleasure at End-of-Life
There are so many things I love about Betty Dodson. She dedicated most of her life to teaching women how to experience pleasure and orgasm. The impact of her work speaks for itself. Betty has connected countless women with their bodies, and her teachings continue...
Speak Your Mind, State Your Pleasure
Betty’s mother told her, “Betty Ann, never be afraid to speak your mind.” Our coaches wrote about their journey with speaking up. Browse the links below to read the full post.Dear Ex-Boyfriends, Dear Younger Self "Now that I’ve found you, my younger selves, I want you...
Bodysex Rituals Are Exercises in Shared Vulnerability
Carrying the legacy of an icon like Betty Dodson can be crushing at times. I’m representing Betty’s life’s work while trying to incorporate my experience taking Bodysex virtual during covid. There are complexities in the repression of female sexuality that are new,...
Finding My Voice
Art by Betty DodsonFor most of my life, I didn’t feel comfortable speaking up for myself. I was raised to be a “good girl,” to be “seen and not heard”, to “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” My own thoughts, feelings, and wants were diminished,...
Teenage Orgies
As a child, I was painfully shy. I barely ever spoke in school and had only a handful of friends. I wanted so badly to break out of my shell, but I didn’t know how I could drastically change my entire personality when everyone already knew me as being quiet and...
Masturbation is Where I Find Myself
Speaking my mind has always been a really hard thing to do. Not only because I feared what everyone would think every time I spoke my truth, but also because I couldn’t hear my own truth. My whole life I saw my external world as more important, more prominent than my...
Dear Ex-Boyfriends, Dear Younger Self
Dear ex boyfriends, lovers, et al, I have some things to say that might be hard for you to hear, but I can’t hold them and not speak about them anymore. Your lack of listening hurt me. And it bothers me that you let the words “calm down,” “too emotional,” and “not...
Reclaiming My Sexual Body
I started my journey into Bodysex in 2022. Before then I was engaging with the Dodson&Ross website for a few years. My career as a dance artist, actress and teacher spans over sixteen years. In 2011 I began making work focused on female empowerment which played...
Menstruation
Our coaches wrote about their relationship with menstruation. Browse the links below to read the full post.Shedding Menstrual Shame in the Sacred Space of Bodysex "I laid back vulva towards the circle and warned everyone again that they’d be seeing a lot of blood as I...
Shedding Menstrual Shame in the Sacred Space of Bodysex
I stared at my period app calendar, frustrated that either it wasn’t right or my body wasn’t. I was supposed to have my period by now, in fact I’d intentionally planned this Bodysex circle so that it would be just past the heavy days. Every time I went to the bathroom...
Who is Afraid of Blood?
Read Monica's post in French “Monica? Are you listening to me? Could you please repeat what I just said?" – Yes, I do listen. You explained that the verb ‘to be’ and ‘to have’ are auxiliaries in French and… "Ok, Monica, that will be all, thank you." – May I go to the...