Parenthood

Parenthood

Part One: Becoming Parents “Do you get to choose how many kids you have?” my 7 year old niece asked me last week.  “Sometimes,” I replied. She cocked her head at me.  “I wanted 2 daughters, I had one, and I ended up with none,” I said. Her mouth fell open.  ...
The Wise Auntie: Celebrating Childfree Life

The Wise Auntie: Celebrating Childfree Life

Mine is a childfree life… Over time I’ve come to realise that the idea of having children was driven by the societal norm of my era… it was never a desire I had… it was just what I was supposed to do in my 20s. Get married, have kids. In my 20s and early 30s I thought...
My First Sexual Experience Was Assault

My First Sexual Experience Was Assault

I resisted writing about the topic of nonconsensual touch. I’ve learned that whenever I experience resistance, it’s something that I need to explore. So here I am, about to share a memory that I haven’t talked about much. I grew up in the Ohio countryside, surrounded...
Mapping the Nerves of the Internal Clitoris

Mapping the Nerves of the Internal Clitoris

Recently, Dr. Ju Young Lee built upon the research of Dr. Helen O’Connell and created a complete 3D mapping of the nerves of the clitoris. What they found was extraordinary.  There are several complex tree-like branching nerves that innervate the mons pubis,...
My Body is Mine

My Body is Mine

Non-consensual touch started young for me. I had to kiss or hug my uncles and aunties when I saw them… and, because ‘she meant well’ and ‘it’s how she is’, it was okay for my Italian neighbour to pinch my cheeks – hard! Fortunately for me, while those things were...