Important disclaimer: This is what I know to be true about my body and my techniques right now, it is not what has always been true and might not be what is always true going forward. Should my body shift and change as bodies do for all the reasons, hormones, age, weight, stress etc. so could my orgasmic responses. Should my techniques gain more adventurous and explorative moments, my body’s response and capability could also change.

“Hmm what would happen if I kept going?” This was a thought I had in my younger years when I would have a smaller orgasm when riding my husband on top. Sometimes I would keep going, and would have another orgasm shortly after the first. I noticed when that happened it was like the first orgasm was smaller and had emptied the tank halfway and there was a bit more I could get out if I kept going. This was very rare and during the time in my life when I didn’t masturbate.

Now that I have a much more established masturbation practice I know I’m capable of multiple orgasms whenever I want them. I wash every toy I have because variety is what keeps the orgasm train flowing for me. Every dildo and vibrator are clean and ready for duty. Mentally I get prepared with some written erotica, red quill has been an amazing site for this. I put in whatever fantasy has been running through my head and let the site get creative with putting it all together. I read and massage my vulva with a soft silicone grinding pad. Once I feel super turned on (which varies based on stress, mood etc.) I will grab my smallest dildo and the magic wand on setting one.

My first orgasm is always my bigger orgasm, and I always enjoy it more if I don’t edge it and just take it. After the first one I might change up the story or decide I need to switch erotica to something visual, usually I watch guys masturbating. For physical switch up I go to the next biggest dildo I have while keeping the vibe at a 1 and see if I can work up to another orgasm which usually takes around 10-15 minutes or more depending on the day. This orgasm is a bit less intense but still very worthwhile. Moving up to a 2 on the vibe and switching to more taboo erotica is my next plan of action.

The rest of my time is spent between my stainless steel njoy wand and my silicone dildo with the vibrator shifting from 2 to 3 or 3 to 4. Sometimes I want to have erotica playing sort of like background support while I close my eyes and fantasize about other things. This goes until I feel done or complete, sometimes that’s because my arms are tired. Other times I know I’m done because my body finally shifts into the liquid warm pleasure afterglow, where the world slows a bit and I drink up the feel of my skin and what it feels like to breathe deeply.

What I notice is that my body usually craves more than one orgasm before it feels really relaxed and content. Having more than one orgasm for me is easier achieved in a solo setting or shared masturbation session. They require a little planning and strategy but I have never once regretted putting in the time and effort and I always feel lighter afterwards.

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